The object of your affection

Have you ever had something that was too close to your heart that when someone even lay  their eyes or hands on them you become incredibly annoyed and irritated. There are certain things in life which we don’t want to share with others, even the closest ones, as we want to hold all of it for just ourselves.

While this theory is practical and applicable for objects we humans tend to take it up a notch and impose it on the people we love too and why is that considered wrong? Do you know like why you get scared or annoyed when someone else also likes what you like because you know that the object as such doesn’t have any inner emotions or feelings and anyone who has the object becomes the owner. Eventually that deprives the unique attachment of what you hold for that object and you feel like you lost something.

But we are six sensed human beings who are capable of having our own choices and making our own decisions and have feelings of our own. When you imply the same theory on people, they will feel disrespected, misunderstood or even mistrusted.  First of all, you don’t own people and second of all they are not an object which is self-implied from the first one.

There is a difference between jealousy and possessiveness. Jealousy is a feeling you get on something you want to have but can’t or won’t where as possessiveness is your fear losing what you have. While neither of this has a place in a healthy relationship. It is natural to feel a little possessive about your partner but when you are not careful your fear can outweigh the love you have for that person and lead to unfortunate consequences.

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Fear can never help you hold a person you love even if it does it is not healthy. Only respect and love can. Respect the other person’s choice, independence and privacy. It is as much their lives as it is yours. Trust gives you what insecurity cannot. Objects can always be replaced but people can never be, no matter what others say. Always keep that in mind.

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Kamalavinayagam G
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